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Five Minute Friday: Control
So this week once again I am trying some thing new… today I discovered on a friend of mine’s blog ‘The Carpenter’s Daughter’ something called Five minute Fridays which is facilitated by Kate Motaung which you can read all about here like I did… anyway today’s prompt is control… and I have 5 minutes to write about it… no guidelines, no pressure (other than the clock…) but just a reason to post something.
Control
Control is something that I have often felt a really strong need to have, but something I have realised is almost impossible to truly hold on to.
Control is a theory, an idea, a magical concept where if gained everything will be okay. But to obtain it, and hold on to it costs a lot more than the freedom it pretends to offer. It also makes me a lot more selfish. It makes my world a lot smaller because I need to decide who, what, when and why… but the reality is, that’s not up to me. I can shape my life, make decisions and have some ‘control’ over the who, what and when… but never totally.
As I have learnt to let go of my need for control… (I am sure there will be times I try and take it back) I have felt much freer than ever before… letting go and not trying to hold everything together creates space for others in my life, it removes the stress and anxiety of living up to a false standard set by me and no one else… and it gives me freedom as I hand the control back to the one who deserves it.
Control doesn’t equal freedom they way I hope, but letting go and trusting does… this is something I need to remember.
Australia Day Makes Me Feel Uncomfortable
I have umm and ahh’d about writing this blog all morning… but I can’t seem to stop thinking about it, so I have decided to stop and put my thoughts down on virtual paper… Over the last 5 years my thoughts on Australia Day have started to shift and as I sit here and write this, I am feeling really uncomfortable with what today, Australia Day, represents.
5 years ago I wrote a blog called ‘3 Reasons I love this Sunburnt Country‘ and reading it back today has made me cringe… In the blog the only thing that upset me about Australia Day was the assumption that copious amounts of alcohol had to be consumed in order to truly celebrate. Today, there are lots of things that upset be about the day… and ironically, I hadn’t even thought about the alcohol that will be consumed until I read the blog back. I still love this Sunburnt Country and the reasons I gave in the blog still ring true, I just feel like they are now much less important.
My love for my country is also something I have had to wrestle with, and it is something that I have continued to write about, particularly over the past 12 months. I have longed for our history to be different, to be able to start again and I have learned just a fraction of how truly unique and wonderful our long heritage is and that it should be savoured and treasured. I want to be able to celebrate all things Australian, but I no longer feel like I can just blindly buy into the celebrations of the day without the darkness it also represents being felt.
Today my social media and news feeds are flooded with 2 things… both about the same issue… but not at all the same. Half are what I would call ‘traditional’ Australia day posts… pictures of BBQs, flags, hottest 100 votes and general celebration of what it means to be Australian in 2017. There were even some fairy bread lamingtons… what’s more Australian than that? But the other half are calls to change the date of Australia Day, acknowledgements of the dreadful events of January 26 in years gone by and attempts to respectfully acknowledge the pain and suffering many Indigenous people feel on this day, which many of them consider a day of mourning.
So how do I as a ‘privileged white Australian’ work through this… I love a good public holiday and I would hate to see this one disappear, but I think we do need to seriously stop and consider celebrating being Australian on another day of the year. I have watched a number of videos suggesting all kinds of dates and I have been surprised to learn how little history the date, the 26th of January, as a nationally recognised and celebrated holiday has. I am not a miserable person who should crawl under a rock as some of our politicians might think, I am just one Australian who doesn’t think it is too much to ask, to have a national day that truly unites us, rather than one that continues to divide us and hurt so many. I am not just trying to be politically correct, I am just trying to be human, compassionate, understanding and hopeful of reconciliation for all. I don’t think this push to change the date should just go away, as I am beginning to think that many people would want. It is not something we shouldn’t expect any one to just ‘get over’ and while it is certainly not a part of our history that we should forget, it is also not a day of national celebration. I think it is time to stop and consider it. If we can start a new public holiday for a football parade which benefits no one but the economy, surely we can alter one to bring people together.
Today I am uncomfortable, because I still want things to be different. I want to be able to celebrate all of Australia, I want to be ok with being a white Australian, because I can live in harmony with all of those who also call this great land their own. I also want to be able celebrate on a day where the Bunurong peoples who are the Traditional Custodians of the land on which I live can also celebrate because they are not reminded of the pain and suffering that has been brought to their people over the last 200 years. I want to be able to feel comfortable and confident in the fact that we are moving forward together. I want unity, harmony and peace… and if changing a date, shifting some celebration is what needs to happen to do that, then I support it.
I am proud to be an Australian, I am proud of where we have come from and mostly who we are becoming… (we still have a lot of things to work on) and I want to be able to celebrate with everyone… not just the selected few… who also happen to be the powerful majority. It’s time to stand together and celebrate who we are…
Here’s to a less uncomfortable Australia Day in the future.

Wordless Wednesday: No. 75

Pathways in the Wilderness… New Things for 2017…
So this is something new for this year, Thankful Thursday. It may not be every week, but according to the list it will be at least once a month, and it is something I am looking forward to doing.
Learning to be satisfied and content with who I am, what I have and where I am at, is something that I have struggled with. Sometimes this dissatisfaction has been helpful, as it has pushed me to change things, try things or even improve myself… but sometimes it’s just a misunderstanding of my life compared to the highlight reels that I look at daily on social media.
I have often thought about having a break from Facebook, Instagram and twitter, however, there are lots of things I really like about all of these platforms, but I have to constantly remind myself, that I am only looking at what people want me to see, the sections of their lives that they have chosen to include. That I am not seeing everything, and often not the bad bits, but rather, if it isn’t a ‘highlight’ it’s still just the bits they haven chosen to share, often things they wish they could change or do differently in an attempt to get some motivation to change, or some accountability.
So, to combat this in my own life (but probably make things worse for someone else as I add more to the highlight reel, sorry, but see above) I have decided this year to get better at practicing gratitude. That means being thankful for the things I have, the people in my life, and that stage of life that I am in. Sometime it will even mean looking for the good when life isn’t as rosy or easy as well as I would like, or think it should be. Stopping to see the good things God is doing in my life even when I have to work a little harder to bring them into focus.
So this is the first one… a Thankful Thursday… and to be honest right now I am just thankful to be feeling pretty good. I am definitely not where I thought I would be when I was planning January 2017 last year, but where I am is ok. For the last couple of weeks my Facebook memories and Timehop app have been flooding my phone with memories of our adventures to Europe and New Zealand and for the first time in a long time I am feeling ok about not having a holiday planned. It’s been really nice to be able to reminisce without getting jealous of my summers past, and to actually just take a minute to appreciate how lucky we were to have had those experiences. It’s also the first summer for a long time that I haven’t been bitterly jealous of my friends on school holidays. Although it has probably helped that I have only just returned to work after 3months, I think that for the first time in a long time I am ok with my current lot in life.
This summer I have been able to look back on all of the things we have done and smile. I am so thankful for the things we did, the places we saw, the people we met and the fun we had. I am also really thankful to be having a ‘proper’ Australian summer for the first time in 3 years… where it is hot and the beach is wonderful and inviting. I am thankful for the time I have had to get some little projects done, to clean out the house and to just rest and be restored. I am thankful for the fresh start that 2017 has been, even if it has just been a mental one. I am thankful that God promises new things… Over the past couple of months some Old Testament verses have really stuck out and popped up regularly, so I am thankful that I can claim them for my year ahead… here is what I am holding on to…
“I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.” Isaiah 43:19
“The kindness of the Lord has not ended, his mercies are not spent” Lamentations 3:22
”This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9
I am really excited and thankful in advance for new things, pathways in the wilderness and rivers in wasteland… new mercies and kindness and the encouragement to be strong, bold and courageous, because I am not alone.

Wordless Wednesday: No. 97
Wordless Wednesday: Heigh-ho, Heigh-ho it’s back to work I go…

Wordless Wednesday: Multi-tasking no. 86 & 99.

It’s 2017 List Time!
Hey 2017, I have been waiting for you… waiting for a good reason to start lots of things again… all the usual suspects, like getting my eating and exercise on track, but also a brand new list. I am really excited about this year and it’s list. I am not really sure why, but it has a good feeling about it, which is enough for me to go with.
This year will be my 9th list… 9, can you believe it? That will take me to 900 things that I have ‘listed’ and attempted. You can check out all the old lists by clicking the year they were attempted here: 2006, 2007, 2010, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2015 or 2016. This year’s list is once again full of little goals, 100 of them all up… Some big, some small, some fun, some serious, some new, some re-dos, some very deliberate and some very very random but all things that at some stage last year I decided I wanted/needed/should do this year.
I really love doing these lists each year and the last couple of years I have been lucky enough to have been on some overseas adventures, in fact last year we started the year in Venice and the year before we were in New Zealand, so I jam packed those lists with the things we would do while we were away. But this year we are regrouping and staying home, which means the list looks a little more like the lists of old… all home grownish, localish fun which means if you live near me… or want to visit me, you too can join the listing fun. Seriously let me know if you want to help me… crossing things off the list is always more fun with someone else.
I am also hoping (like every other year) that 2017 will be the year that I get more consistent with blogging it when it happens… so that I can remember them all, not just all the big ones… anyway, that’s enough rambling about the list… here it is:
- Play some table tennis
- Learn to make a paper crane
- Do something special to celebrate my 30th
- Go on a book blind date
- Make Mrs Kaye’s cookies
- Have High Tea
- No more games in the morning… even if I am sick
- Try again
- Keep getting closer
- Go back to park run
- Go back to work
- Go back to school
- Paint something
- Build something
- Drink a bottle of water most days
- Have a ‘no screen time’ day or hopefully a couple of them
- Make some smores
- Go on a picnic
- Find out how floating lanterns work… how they are made etc.
- Go to the drive in
- Go Camping
- Go on a road trip
- Swim in the ocean
- See a musical
- Do a fun run
- Have a spa of some sort
- Write a letter to myself to open in 10 years
- Help change something at home
- Start learning guitar again
- Get a haircut
- Take a photo everyday
- Exercise at least 3 times a week and make the most of my gym membership
- Send 20 hand written cards
- Eat/make paella
- Bake a lemon meringue pie
- Get a massage
- Participate in a scavenger hunt
- Do some trivia
- Try those multi fill water bombs and have a water fight
- Remember the important things: God, Dave, Health, Family and Communication
- Get better at shopping for my body
- Watch Hocus Pocus
- Go on a bush walk
- Use my new outdoor reading chair
- Blow some bubbles
- Play a board game
- Play a video game… not on my phone
- Go berry picking
- Have 5 different milkshake dates
- Try yoga again
- Visit a museum/gallery
- Blog regularly
- Seriously… be on time
- Get to work earlier and leave on time
- Keep my photo storage up to date
- Keep my computer up to date
- Meet Baby Lewis
- Try to make Turkish Delight… or just eat some real Turkish Delight
- Read 16 books
- Read at least 3 christian/devotional books
- Bake/cook something from 6 different countries
- Visit 3 different national parks
- Create an outdoor cinema in the backyard
- Go to a country town I have never been to before
- Watch a sunrise
- Get my car washed properly and then wash it least 5 times
- Read the book of Joshua
- Find some new blogs I like and read them regularly
- Cross at least one thing off my list each month
- Go to the fancy McDonald’s in Clifton Hill
- Finish cleaning out the spare room
- Three words… ‘home cooked meals’
- Have a spend nothing day at least once a month
- Get up at 7am on work days
- Make a quiche
- Have a non liquid breakfast at least twice a week
- Finish Gilmore Girls
- Check out Hungarofest
- Stop using Eastlink… just leave earlier
- Find out if our house has a legit hidden fireplace… or just get some proof of hope
- Find out where our local swimming hole is and use it
- Remember Joshua
- Try the crochet thongs/uggs
- Stay at the Langham
- Try Danny’s Donuts
- Finish sorting and storing the VHS tapes
- Blog about being thankful at least once a month
- Get my steps up again… ideally to >10,000 per day
- Learn how to play a new game
- Go interstate
- Get both the Europe and New Zealand Photo books ready for print
- Finish watching Star Trek Next Gen
- Go on a romantic get away
- Try 4 more local cafe’s in the search of our new local
- Finish my sentence a day book
- Improve my 5km time
- Do some colouring
- Go to bed earlier
- Clean out the Kikki.K folders
- Be deliberate about filling the house with good things like flowers and music
And there you have it… 2017 I am so glad you are here!
2016 – The Wrap Up
Wow… so that was 2016… probably one of the craziest years of my life. I don’t think any other years of my life have had quite as many extreme highs and lows, and the list has once again been there through it all. I am really glad that this year I chose to include some of my more deliberate holiday adventures. I like that it has given me a reason to document them properly and that now I have them sitting right here to look back on whenever I want as many of them have a blog post just for them.
What about the rest… well that’s here too. Some have links, and some I will tell you about right here, including the ones that didn’t… but they are all there ready and waiting for you to read all about…

Start 2016 somewhere outside of Australia– completed: 01/01/2016Make a summer fruit platter in a watermelon– completed: 19/02/2016
Send 12 hand written cards/letters– completed: 23/04/2016
Make a lolly cake– completed: 31/11/2016Rearrange a space– completed: 17/02/2016Play my flute– completed: 29/12/2016
This year was the first year in a long time that I have missed Christmas caroling, I didn’t miss it enough to get my flute out during caroling season, but I did get it out this week and play some carols. It was really nice to play again and to know that I haven’t lost it.Go to Disneyland– completed: 24/01/2016- Find out is our house has a legit hidden fireplace
I am pretty sure that we do… but I have no proof and while my intention was to just kick a hole in the wall and find out what was there, some other things came up and I will have to wait a little longer to find out for sure. Visit something older than colonised Australia– completed: 14/01/2016Have tea in London… Queen optional– completed: 19/01/2016Do a ridiculously cheesy tourist photo with a famous tourist attraction– completed: 22/01/2016Go to a country I have never been to before– completed: 02/01/2016Find a geocache– completed: 06/04/2016Hide a geocache– completed: 06/04/2016Watch the Prince of Egypt– completed: 18/03/2016- Go in the 2016 Melbourne Marathon festival somehow… 5, 10, half or full
When the 2016 Melbourne Marathon was on I was 23 weeks pregnant and running was even less of a strong suit than it was earlier in the year. Maybe next year. Be a Victorian tourist and go somewhere all the tourists go– completed: 09/07/2016See my bestie face to face– completed: 18/01/2016- Get back in the pool and swim at least 5 times
I am not really sure why I didn’t swim this year… I really enjoy it, I think that maybe it’s the thought of the effort of bathers, towels, public showers and goggles… sometimes it all just seems too hard. Go to the Zoo– completed: 03/02/2016Make some kind of festive seasonal dish– completed: 02/12/2016Use the fire pit– completed: 19/02/2016
Not only did we use it, but there a perfect circle of dead grass where it was.Go skiing or snowboarding or tobogganing– completed: 03/01/2016Do you want to build a snowman? I do– completed: 04/01/2016Go Camping– completed: 04/04/2016See some Northern Hemisphere stars– completed: 06/01/2016Run with at least 3 different people– completed: 27/02/2016Make a photo book or our Europe Adventures– completed: 29/12/2016
Just sitting there waiting for the Christmas budget to cool it’s jets before we print it.- Save money each pocket money
It was not a good year for our fiances… well Dave’s pocket money card might be ok… but mine not so much. Go on a bush walk– completed: 05/04/2016Go to a farmers market– completed: 27/03/2016Make some meringues– completed: 03/10/2016
Learn how to spell meringues without having to check it every time– completed: 03/10/2016Keep my emails under control – no extreme amounts of notifications on my phone– completed: 31/12/2016
Not at all times, but for most of the year I made a special effort to keep the notifications under control.Get and keep my photo storage under control– completed: 29/12/2016
This is one I am really proud of, I love our photos and I am a little paranoid about losing them, but now I have them all backed up and safely stored, I just have to keep these backups up to date.Sew something– completed: 30/12/2016
Let’s not get too excited I repaired a jumper of Dave’s and pair of my pants, but I had to get the sewing machine out and use it to do so… that counts as sewing.Do some trivia– completed: 05/06/2016Bake some snacks– completed: 02/10/2016See a musical– completed: 13/05/2016Read 16 books– completed: 20/11/2016- Do a water aerobics class
I am putting this in the same category as swimming, the whole idea was just too much for me this year. - Do a spin class
So I don’t really have an excuse, I left it too late and then when I could do a class again, I just didn’t want to. Bikes and me… maybe we will never be. - Have a BBQ Wednesday
I wish we had, I really do, but we didn’t. BBQ Wednesday’s seem a lot harder to organise and make happen than they ever did before. Go to a state of Australia that I haven’t been to before– completed: 03/04/2016Touch my feet to some red dirt– completed: 06/04/2016Clean up my iTunes playlists– completed: 29/12/2016
Yep all clean, lots deleted and hopefully just the good ones left… I’ll just have to work my way through them again and check.Visit another international thermal pool– completed: 07/01/2016- Clean my car more regularly
Nup… it is really dirty and will be until next year… I really need to clean it more often. Sort out my 2014 and 2015 scrap books– completed: 12/12/2016
Turns out there were a few more years that I hadn’t done, but they are done now too… Now I just have to do 2016.Try at least 2 new park runs– completed: 12/03/2016
Keep my apple things updated properly– completed: 31/12/2016
This actually took a lot more work than this little list item implies, but it is done. Laptop, iPad and iPhone.Go to Inverloch at least 5 times– completed: 15/12/2016
I am not really sure what to say about this, I went down there 5 times… and really I should do it a lot more often.- Swim in the Ocean
I really wish I had done this too… but it just didn’t happen, when we were at the beach it was too cold, but when it was hot, we were no where near the beach. Have high tea– completed: 09/07/2016Walk to the end of a pier– completed: 30/10/2016
Get some Fro-yo– completed: 11/02/2016- Go roller skating
Also a no for 2016… even though we live right near a skating rink… turns out I am just not that passionate about skating. Ride a bike– completed: 17/01/2016Have some pasta/ pizza/gelato in Italy– completed: 01/01/2016Have some processed meat in Germany– completed: 05/01/2016See the Myer windows– completed: 21/12/2016
Dave and I spent a night strolling around the city checking out all the Melbourne Christmas fun… and that includes the Myer windows… but because it was a beautiful night and we went at peak time… I just looked through the very long line and Dave read the book to me.Go to a place I can’t pronounce– completed: 06/01/2016Do some more work as a teacher– completed: 29/02/2016Take a photo with an English Guard– completed: 20/01/2016Take the Eurostar– completed: 22/01/2016See an Emu– completed: 05/04/2016Experience the outback– completed: 04/04/2016Follow through on the date box again– completed: 27/12/2016
Each year these seem to get harder to fit in, but always more important than they were the year before.Go to Sherbrook forest– completed: 09/04/2016- Be on time… it’s time
I don’t think I could honestly cross this off, but I am getting better and I am definitely making more of an effort to be on time. Have another Star Trek Movie Marathon– completed: 29/12/2016
We had planned on doing this a little earlier in the year, but it didn’t quite happen, so this week I sat down and watched the two first movies back to back… which counts as a marathon.Make my own dumplings– completed: 28/11/2016
With a trusty Donna Hay recipe which is always delicious.Be confronted by WWII– completed: 11/01/2016Go on a Gondola ride– completed: 01/01/2016Visit a real life old time castle…. like one that would inspire Disney– completed: 08/01/2016Visit at least 4 museums– completed: 12/01/2016See the Berlin Wall– completed: 14/01/2016Taste some dutch cheese– completed: 16/01/2016Have a Shakespeare moment– completed: 02/01/2016Do a 3D jigsaw– completed: 21/09/2016Ride a Camel… or at least see one in Uluru– completed: 05/04/2016Have one of those epic milkshakes– completed: 09/04/2016
- Have a Random Acts of Kindness week
This should have happened, and I even started a couple of times, but either forgot about it or started missing days. Either way it didn’t happen. Go on a Road Trip– completed: 06/05/2016Have a wardrobe purge– completed: 29/01/2016Do another Pinterest project– completed: 19/12/2016
This year I made some DIY Pinterest Christmas gifts, including some sprinkle candles and something special for my friend Pheebs. I like Pinterest!
Help change something at home– completed: 20/11/2016See some carols by candle light– completed: 11/12/2016
Thanks city of Monash, they were fun and I learnt that ‘Boomeranging’ fireworks is the best.Get a massage– completed: 23/11/2016- Keep getting closer again
I did for most of the year, but the back half of the year has not been great for my weight goals… but I have had some other things on my mind and I can try again next year. - Make the most of my gym membership
I don’t think I could honestly cross this off either… I have used the gym, but not as much as I could have or should have… I am going to put this with no. 90 and say I will try again next year. Get my menu planning and home cooking game on– completed: 31/12/2016
I may have taken me all year… and I may not have written anything down, but at least I now think about what we could cook and plan ahead if I need to go to the shops… which is such an improvement from where I was that this is getting crossed off.Spend some time in the Old testament (Study at least 2 OT books)– completed: 29/12/2016
This has been really good for me to do, I think I often forget about how much God has packed into the old testament because I spend so long focusing on the new one… but this year I have studied the book of Daniel and Judges and it has been really interesting. I have learnt a lot more than I thought I would and I am hoping this is just the beginning.Eat something from out veggie garden– completed: 22/02/2016Play some badminton– completed: 28/12/2016
So despite the very hot weather this week Dave and I went to the oval across the road and played some badminton, just for a few minutes because as well as the heat the wind had a mind of it’s own which doesn’t work well with a shuttlecock.Make sure I remember my secret list– completed: 29/12/2016
I don’t think I could honestly say I have achieved my secret list, but I definitely thought about it, especially as the year has been coming to an end which is all this list asked me to do. The secret list was just one to remind of the perhaps more important things that don’t often make it on to the regular list as they are hard to quantify, but that doesn’t make them less significant. It included a reminder to slow down, work on my communication and to make time for God, Dave and myself in my sometimes way to busy life. I have really liked having these little side goals to help me focus on the bigger picture. We only get a short time on earth and I want to make sure I am making the time I have better and not worse for myself and those around me.- Run 5km without walking
Another thing I wish I could have crossed of the list but just like number 16 my motivations changed and it just didn’t happen. It is still something that I want to do, but I think it is going to take a little longer than I had hoped. - Have the parentals over for dinner… all of them… separately
Well we did have them all over at different times but not for meals. Well, sometimes we had a mid-meal…. like afternoon tea or morning tea and sometimes even lunch, but not a deliberate dinner. I have certainly seen them all more this year than last year, and after this year will continue to see them more. Their strength and support has been invaluable and I am truly blessed to have all 7 of them in my life. Be more domestic– completed: 29/12/2016
So given that Dave is the more domestic one in our household, he was the judge of this one and he says, and I quote “this was your best year so far”… a pretty overwhelming ‘more’Take Dex on a Doggy Adventure– completed: 07/10/16
So the photo isn’t great but we took Dex to visit his friend Abe when we went to visit our friends Dust and Jess… he had a great time.
So there you go… another year of listing done… and I think I have done pretty good… well actually I think this is my best attempt yet with 84 things crossed off.
Here’s to 2017… may it’s list offerings bring even more joy than 2016’s.

